How to look confident and eliminate signs of worry


When a speaker is unconfident, this feeling affects his voice, facial expression, moves, and posture. He starts behaving unnaturally, which can’t slip under the radar of listeners. Unnatural behavior patterns are called signs of worry, and they are harmful for presentation as they make a speaker look lesser and incompetent, as well as distract the audience.

Mental conditioning helps presenters feel more confident and behave in a matter-of-course manner. Still and all, a small detail is present: even though a speaker is confident, he might show signs of worry.

First of all, one should identify the problem. Sometimes it happens that people don’t notice anxiety because they are on firm ground when speaking. Nothing helps better than a video recording analysis.

After you identified a problem, it’s time to cope with it. Here are three simple techniques to eliminate signs of worry.

Exercise 1 - Hyperbolization.

When worrying during a presentation, some speakers hotch. If it’s a problem of yours, too, try rehearsing your presentation at home in front of your friends or relatives. Hotch as much as you can during a rehearsal. It will help you realize how hotching looks, and you will stop associating it with stress. During the next presentation, you’ll be much less likely to start hotching even if you become a little anxious.

Exercise 2 - Eliminating barriers.

It’s okay to feel uncomfortable in atypical situations. New hobbies can help to deal with the problem.

  • If your moves are wooden, try attending dances.
  • If you have an inhibited voice, go to karaoke bars.

Yes, it takes some time, but it’s worth trying for those planning to become high-end speakers.

Exercise 3 - Getting rid of hesitations.

Hesitations are the pauses in a speech that presenters fulfill with meaningless sounds, trying to express the idea. According to the attention credit model, one should eliminate these pauses as much as he can. There is a method that helps to get rid out of this bad habit.

Ask your friends or relatives to clap each time you make hesitations in everyday talks or your speech rehearsal. This trick will help you realize how many hesitations you make. Try to lower this number every time, and soon you will notice that you’re successfully getting rid of these monsters.